No is the most powerful word in my vocabulary — I’ve learned to love to say no. “No thank you” is a complete sentence, a way to get men to (hopefully) leave you alone, it’s a boundary, and it’s empowering to use and say.

Unfortunately, no can also be REALLY hard to say. It’s alleged that as a toddler I was pretty damn good at saying no but as I got older the people pleasing requirements of being a woman kicked in. Boundaries and saying no got harder because being easy going was expected and requested of me. I allowed…

Have you ever googled how “productive” people schedule their days? If you haven’t I’ll save you the time. “Productive” people get up at the crack of dawn, they run 7 miles as the sun rises, they meditate, journal, write a memoir, read three newspapers, drink a green smoothie made from the healthiest of greens that they grow in their garden, AND then they begin their day by focusing on only the 3 topmost priorities in their life.

Contrary to my sass there is no shame in that lifestyle but it doesn’t work for me. I guess you could say I…

How’s the balance on your self-trust fund looking? Mines robust but it didn’t always look like this. It took me YEARS to learn how to build my self-trust fund. And now that I think I know what I’m doing I’m ready to share a few of my self trust tidbits with you!

Self-Trust Defined

Harnessing and tapping into our self-trust is powerful but before we can use it we need to understand it. Self-trust is knowing that you can take care of yourself and your safety. Having self-trust in a scenario means that you trust yourself to get through it.

This article…

Let’s debunk some mindset myths.*A note on mindset before we begin; mindset is an amazing and helpful tool but if we don’t take aligned action it’s just thoughts. Make sure you do the mindset work AND take action.

This week we are going to dig into the new year with new mindset myths that we think will empower us but actually hold us back. Mindset myths are out there trying to convince us to play small, to be a participant in the hamster wheel of toxic positivity and that success is just one more checkbox away.

As a coach I…

Ready for your first tip of 2021?

2021 is the year that we are going to ask for what we want! So tell me, what do you want?

Semi easy in concept but when we really start thinking about it, identifying what we want and why we want it can get messy. Do we really want to run a marathon or do we just like the idea of having run a marathon? Do we really want to be a millionaire or do we just want to not worry about money? …

Goal Setting: Expectation v. Reality

Have you ever set goals expecting a very specific result only to have reality deliver you something completely different?

I know I have! And honestly, it isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes the detour we end up on is where we are meant to be. But, for the majority of us it’s important to get realistic about where our goals might lead us so we don’t end up disappointed with our results.

Today I’m going to share with you a little about expectations v. reality and how we can be kinder to ourselves on our journey to our goals.

Goal Setting

Goal…

Toxic positivity is the most powerful weapon against authenticity. Don’t believe me? Let me explain.

Before we start here’s little background on toxic positivity

I love love. I love play, excitement, joy, fun! But it is wildly ignorant to believe that everything will always be rainbow and sunshine! I preach that our mindset matters and having a generally positive outlook is helpful for our mental state BUT we can go overboard in the positivity department. This is when positivity becomes toxic.

Toxic positivity is the overgeneralization that we should be positive and optimistic ALWAYS. It stems from an unwillingness to acknowledge or experience negative emotions. …

If I had a penny for every post I’ve seen with something along the lines of “Be you, everyone else is taken ❤” I would no longer have student loan debt. While this cliche is easy to mock (and trust me — early 20’s Emily mocked it ruthlessly), I’ve recently come to the realization that it’s so popular because it’s actually kind of hard to do. Being yourself — being unique — truly identifying who you are and what you want in a situation is hard and a little confusing.

I can hear you groaning through the keyboard but hear…

It’s ok to not know what you’re doing — but do SOMETHING anyway. Inaction is not an option right now.

I’m going to let you in on a little secret, some days (most) I have no idea what I’m doing. This comes out especially in allyship and activism. I’m aware that I’m a work in progress and always will be.

What I’ve learned from this is that It’s ok to not have a plan, but it’s not ok to sit on the sidelines. You cannot be complicit right now.

The I Don’t Know Hang Up

It’s natural to think we have to have it all…

Like I shared last week, I just finished re-reading the entire Harry Potter series as an act of self care. My mood has been messy and my brain has been a bit chaotic so I’ve been using my favorite series as inspiration for my self-care activities. By Harry Potter self care I do not mean taking Gryffindor themed bubble baths, creating shrines to Cedric Diggory or donning the sorting hat to advise us. Instead I want to instill in my self-care the values and tips shared throughout the books.

So without further ado here are the rest of my…

But Really Tho

I’m a coach, writer, a chronic over sharer, a fitness fanatic & the proud mother of a corgi named Herman. I’m forever psychoanalyzing myself & writing about it

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